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https://bit.ly/3HGv7Kt https://bit.ly/33aZ4Dx https://bit.ly/3LsypTZ https://bit.ly/3rE1SCt https://bit.ly/3BaeXXs https://bit.ly/3oAP3a7 https://bit.ly/3HCITOm https://bit.ly/3uGCyOq I certainly think it is a good thing that the woman shouldn't be expected to do all the work in the home, but I think the implication that she shouldn't be expected to do any of it is somewhat unrealistic, unless you can afford those servants. And I really don't think a marriage where my husband had to make an appointment to discuss his feelings with me would be very satisfactory. One of the things I like best about our Taken In Hand relationship is that both of us express our thoughts and feelings more freely now, I don't think I'd like to have to make an appointment to tell my husband what I was thinking (quite often he knows without me telling him anyway "I can read you like a book" as he frequently remarks). I'm not sure about not asking for love, affection, and sex. I mean I don't usually ask for those things directly, but again having a Taken In Hand relationship has made me more demonstrative, I never used to go in much for saying "I love you" or things like that, but these days I try to say them more often, since he has always been a lot more free with demonstrative affection than I have. This gives him a lot of pleasure. And I suppose I do 'ask' for sex more often than I used to, since being Taken In Hand is a big turn-on for me, I find myself indicating a desire for sex more frequently if not actually asking for it outright. The trouble with having all these rules about what you can/cannot say or ask for or do etc is that it all sounds terribly inhibiting to me, whereas I have found the changes in our relationship have made me a lot less inhibited about expressing myself, whether verbally or physically. It's the relaxing of our relationship that has been the best thing.
